Is it Evil to be Narcissistic? (Signs to Identify a Cruel Narcissist)
Is it Evil to be Narcissistic? Being narcissistic or suffering from NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), is not your hands. Yes but not being cruel, evil or a sadist is in your hands. Being good or bad is indeed in your hands though. So if you are suffering from NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), do not get dishearted, as it is a mental health disorder that can be controlled but most probably not cured completely. If you are suffering through NPD, you need to worry that you do not become a shady person under the influence of narcissism.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a mental health condition, where the patient has extremely high admiration for themselves, including boosted self-esteem, self-centeredness, high self-worth, boosted ego, and a low tolerance for criticism, emotions, and attachments.
Who is a narcissist?
A Narcissist is an individual who is excessively obsessed to have control over all situations in their life, control over all individuals and their behavior, and also expects everyone around them to focus just on them. They intend to be the center of attraction in all situations. A Narcissist person craves attention all the time, lacks care and empathy, can be rude and blunt, ignores other people’s feelings, and has troubled relationships.
They think the world rotates around them and so they are very ignorant, self-centered, and mean. They cannot think outside the box unless it is according to or in their interest or favor.
Why do Narcissists choose cruelty?
Ultimately all human beings are good at the core, nobody is born that way, but it is the ways or pursuits of life which are fitted in your life and are forced to pursue that you forget the line between the good and bad. So these are the ways you need to unlearn and establish your own ways of living life. This is completely related to a narcissist, they are a good person, but they just have come to become this way, as they have come across similar personalities so they were not given a chance to improve probably.
Often it is observed by mental health experts, that the children raised by narcissists have childhood trauma, which affects their upbringing and also makes the same or even more narcissistic than their parents. Narcissistic parents are almost emotionally unavailable, self-centered, and egoistic, lash out in anger more frequently, have a very low rate of understanding, and blame the child, rather than looking at their fault.
Children learn from their parents, so parents would only be passing on narcissistic traits to their children as an inherent quality knowingly or unknowingly, willingly or unwillingly, by choice or without choice. Unless they are guided toward what is right, instead of toxic behavior, there is no way a child will not learn all those narcissistic traits possessed by their Narcissistic parents.
Narcissists have either been in such a toxic atmosphere and so they do not change and opt for the same cruelty, or they consider the toxic behavior as normal as they have never experienced anything better.
Is it Evil to be Narcissistic?
Would it be appropriate to tag a narcissistic person as “Evil”? The answer to this question can be very complex and vague. Narcissists are wicked due to the excessive amount of self-love which is harmful in the bigger picture. The answers are biased and it keeps on changing depending on the victims, and the assailants. If we take into consideration the viewpoints of both teams; that are the Victims – people who tolerate or are on the receiving end of the narcissistic torture and abuse; and the Assailants – people who are suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder and are on the giving end of the narcissistic torture and abuse.
Can narcissists be evil from a victim’s point of view?
So when we see the scene through a victim’s point of view, Yes! Narcissistic people can be evil according to them. Narcissists can be abusive, controlling, torturing, and difficult to live with. But who does not have a bad or evil side to them? Everyone can be difficult even without any disorder. So will it be fair to tag a narcissistic person as evil? When you are on the receiver’s end you can feel that your life would be full of narcissistic torture till eternity and there is no escaping.
Yes! When you are on the receiver’s end you can call narcissistic various names or give them tags like evil, bad, torturous, monsters, money-minded, or even a messenger of satan for that matter. But rather than thinking it that way, rather than calling names or terming them “EVIL”, you can always look out for options. You can give them the taste of their medicine by seeking some sort of revenge, mirroring their tactics on them, or even projecting how you feel when they are around. They can be taught a lesson, but tagging them evil would be too far gone on your end.
So if you are a victim of narcissistic abuse, rage, and torture; find some ways to deal with them and cope with them if you really want to be with them. Also, you can get peace by abandoning them or leaving them, but this can be done if you are dating or marrying a narcissist. There is always an escape for that matter.
So if you wish genuine happiness for them and want to be with them, you can either have a serious talk with them about how you feel, give them the taste of their medicine or find some ideas to work your way with them. But remember this process can be so draining both physically and mentally. Patience, perseverance, and a lot of sacrifices are up your way in this case. In this case, you can also seek professional help in the form of therapy or by consulting some mental health expert.
But sometimes when you do not even have any option, like when you have a narcissistic family member, then you have no choice. You cannot abandon them. You cannot even have the option to choose a family member, in the same manner, you cannot leave them. The only way to deal with them is either by finding ways to cope or taking breaks from them so that even they do not start taking you for granted.
When you really like or love a narcissist, you do not opt for the option of leaving or abandoning them, you just find some ways to deal with them out of love and care which is an appropriate way to deal with a narcissist, rather than giving tags like evil or bad.
Can narcissists be evil from a narcissist’s point of view?
Of course not! Narcissists can never be evil or bad from their viewpoint. In fact all narcissists especially malignant Narcissists are god sent angels according to their personal beliefs. They believe they are perfect and there is nothing wrong with them. They do not see any faults in their way of behavior. They think that benefitting from others, taking adverse advantages, and treating people as they wish are some common ways to behave. Narcissists can be selfish, egoistic, cruel, mean, or also sadistic at some point in time. But they do not accept their faults that easily. They are quite well aware of how unrealistic they can be sometimes, but they would never ever accept that.
Are all narcissists bad? – Are all narcissists evil or cruel?
To understand NPD(Narcissistic Personality Disorder) in simple forms, let us put it in simple words; NPD(Narcissistic Personality Disorder) is nothing but portraying toxic traits in an intensified state than others.
Every human possesses these traits of ego, admiration, self-worth, self-praise, control over situations in life as much as possible, expecting attention from others, some troubles in relationships, rudeness, selfishness, lack of self-reflection, and all such traits that make us human. It is just that people who possess these in more amounts due to certain situations in life, brought up, parental pressure, and many more reasons are declared as narcissists and in psychological terms, such people suffer from NPD(Narcissistic Personality Disorder). They portray these emotions or in this case negative traits in a greater magnitude than others.
We live in a society that is always expecting something more and better every day from us, expects to be on our best behavior all the time, fulfill everyone’s wishes and be true to what others expect from us. So this constant pressure and lack of freedom in society force out negative traits of humans or be less positive day by day. Thus we are only pushing people to be unrealistic and difficult to deal with. So unless society is more liberal in terms of thoughts and freedom, people with such psychological disorders would emerge in larger amounts making it a more complicated world for living and revival.
So the answer to the question, “Are all narcissists evil?” is no, not all narcissists are evil. The bad behavior totally depends on the individual suffering from this disorder. Some individuals constantly fight the urge to limit their outbursts and negative traits and try to balance life with positivity. But this is a rare scene. Because narcissistic personality disorder makes a person a slave to their negative traits and unlikely urges.
Yeah but there are a few virtuous narcissists too who acknowledge their somewhat lacking behavior like, for instance,
- They are hurting other people, who show the opposite which is love for them.
- They are purposefully bad but could not care more to at least even try changing.
- They can seek help in the form of therapy but avoid that as it hurts their ego and self-pride.
That does not mean we provide a free pass or are supposed to be immune to this abuse caused by narcissists. When the abuse is more unbearable or more frequent than before we need to take actions like abandoning them, leaving them for someone better, going away from them, ghosting them, rejecting them, disapproving of their behavior, disregarding them, or completely disappearing from their lives.
Due to a lack of empathy, self-centeredness, switching of emotions, mood swings, rage, and many other negative traits it quite seems like not possible to expect anything good from a narcissist often. Thus narcissists are usually termed Evil and Cruel.
So is there any way to part the good narcissists and cruel narcissists from each other? Can you spot cruel narcissists? Yes! there are some signs from which you can filter the cruel narcissists. So let us know Signs to Identify a Cruel Narcissist.
Signs to Identify a Cruel Narcissist
- They lack Empathy, love, and emotional attachment
- Revenge is their go-to tool
- They are selfish and mean
- They are backstabbers and double-faced
- They abandon when their purpose with you is complete
1. They lack empathy, love, and emotional attachment
There is no emotional bonding when you live with a narcissist. They have constant mood swings and emotional tantrums. So there is always a lack of emotional support and constant emotional manipulation. Narcissists lack empathy and sensitivity. There is no meaning to the words empathy, love, and emotional attachment when you live with a narcissistic person. They would be verbally abusive and emotionally unavailable when you need them thus they are inconsiderate of what you feel and how you feel. Also, Lying is the instinct of a narcissist. Narcissistic individuals would escape the reality of situations and live in the world of made-up lies.
2. Revenge is their go-to tool
Narcissists consider themselves to be superior, smarter, important, deserving, and more entitled than you always. Narcissists cannot let you go easily when they have been wronged by you. This includes breaking up, insulting, ghosting, ignoring, and any such actions that are not liked by a narcissist. Their revenge may cause you some permanent emotional scars like distorted mental health or temporary breakdown. They can verbally abuse or use threats to blackmail. You can also get some unwilling projections from them, and also some rash reactions from them which might even hurt you on a deeper level.
3. They are selfish and mean
Usually, all narcissists are mean and selfish, but malignant narcissists tend to be extra mean and selfish. Narcissists are so self-absorbed that even after breaking up or leaving you they might take advantage of you and you might not even get the slightest hint about their slyness until they sweep the last bits of supply that they can get from you. They would not leave you easily. Narcissist Hoovers around you like they would not let go of you even though you do not want to be in touch, especially after breakups or when you leave them.
Narcissists are full of themselves. Narcissists have intensified selfish traits like ego, jealousy, self-praise, selfishness, control over situations in life as much as possible, expecting attention from others, troubles in relationships, rudeness, selfishness, lack of self-reflection, and many more.
4. They are backstabbers and double-faced
Narcissists often lead a life under the influence of hypocrisy, which makes them double-faced. They often mirror the selves that people want to see and also live with their real selves behind that mirrored image. So when they are unable to prove themselves or bruise their self-ego, they either deflect or face a wave of uncalled emotions which include incompetence, jealousy, hatred, and abhor themselves.
They are backstabbers as they can go to any extremities to seek advantage of you, use you and dump you after that. They do not think twice before abandoning you. Narcissists would often present their image as desired by you, they would mention all those traits that are liked by you, and they would make their image so spotless and desirable that you would be deceived by their charming fake personalities. They would often lie to you about their real selves. They would always wear a fake mirrored mask to keep you interested in them.
5. They abandon when their purpose with you is complete
Ghosting is a narcissist’s way of saying goodbye forever. It means they would be going completely no contact or an off-reach approach by deleting or blocking you on social media, blocking your phone number, and not visiting places that you expect them to be. Ghosting ensures that they keep their distance from you to get rid of you. They would put you on read, will not call back, or simply just go MIA(Missing in Action). They would just forget your existence as soon as you serve their purpose.
Do you know about the narcissist discard phase?
The Discard phase is nothing but the time when a narcissist uses you completely until their satisfaction like their puppet, and when they no longer need you or find someone else they just discard you like something unimportant.
Inference
Would it be appropriate to tag a narcissistic person as “Evil”? The answer to this question can be very complex and vague. Narcissists are wicked due to the excessive amount of self-love which is harmful in the bigger picture. The answers are biased and it keeps on changing depending on the victims, and the assailants.
If we take into consideration the viewpoints of both teams; that are the Victims – people who tolerate or are on the receiving end of the narcissistic torture and abuse; and the Assailants – people who are suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder and are on the giving end of the narcissistic torture and abuse. Victims consider narcissists to be evil, while on the other hand narcissists consider them to be god-sent angels who are superior to all.
Being narcissistic or suffering from NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), is not your hands. Yes but not being cruel, evil or a sadist is in your hands. Being good or bad is indeed in your hands though. So if you are suffering from NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), do not get dishearted, as it is a mental health disorder that can be controlled but most probably not cured completely. If you are suffering through NPD, you need to worry that you do not become a shady person under the influence of narcissism.
Due to a lack of empathy, self-centeredness, switching of emotions, mood swings, rage, and many other negative traits it quite seems like not possible to expect anything good from a narcissist often. Thus narcissists are usually termed Evil and Cruel.
From Relationship, Depression, and Personality Disorder to Narcissistic problems, I have helped a lot of people find their solutions. Upon gathering a number of common problems that people face, I decided to put the information on this blog so that anyone can get their answers easily.
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